Some Questions You Might Ask

Is the soul solid, like iron?

Or is it tender and breakable, like

the wings of a moth in the beak of the owl?

Who has it, and who doesn’t?

I keep looking around me.

The face of the moose is as sad

as the face of Jesus.

The swan opens her white wings slowly.

In the fall, the black bear carries leaves into the darkness.

One question leads to another.

Does it have a shape? Like an iceberg?

Like the eye of a hummingbird?

Does it have one lung, like the snake and the scallop?

Why should I have it, and not the anteater

who loves her children?

Why should I have it, and not the camel?

Come to think of it, what about the maple trees?

What about the blue iris?

What about all the little stones, sitting alone in the moonlight?

What about roses, and lemons, and their shining leaves?

What about the grass?

  • Mary Oliver

amnesia in dreams and life . . .

“We all have had the experience of going into a room to do or get something or other and forgetting when we get there what it was we had intended to do. Worse yet, we may not even notice that we have forgotten why we were there, and instead just do something we habitually do in that room. This trivial bit of the psychopathology of everyday life offers a compelling analogy to the amnesia we experience not just in dreams but in our lives as a whole.”

Stephen La Berge - Scientist

Love takes off the masks . . .

“Love takes off the masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within. I use the word "love" here not merely in the personal sense but as a state of being, or a state of grace - not in the infantile American sense of being made happy but in the tough and universal sense of quest and daring and growth.

― James Baldwin, The Fire Next Time


Disrupting Karma

KARMA can be a scary word! I’m careful about how and when I use it with clients in a reading or process session.

A wise perspective from Buddhist master Mingyur Rinpoche:

“Karma is not destiny. It is not fate. It has become popular to conclude, “ That’s my karma,” in a way that implies, “ there’s nothing I can do about this.”

That’s a complete misunderstanding. We are born with impulses and inclinations, tastes and characteristics. That’s obvious. yet our impulse for aggression does not necessarily lead to murder.

Our instinct for kindness does not necessarily lea to boundless compassion.

The maturation of any instinct, like that of a seed, depends on circumstances and conditions. But it remains our responsibility to make the most of what we have, and what we are born with, by taking the reins and directing our activities.

Karma contributes to everyday situations that we find ourselves in. It contributes to our family context, the type of work we do, and our financial circumstances.

It shapes our appetites and behavior.

It increases and decreases possibilities.

Karma is not a life sentence, but more like a predilection we can work with - and change. It is not immutable.

. . . we learn to detect impulses in their early stages. We can check an impulse toward anger before exploding like a volcano. If we do not recognize that impulse, then the repetition of angry outbursts strengthens the tendency towards anger and creates its own karmic energy, its own propensity for reoccurrence.

Recognition allows us to disrupt the habitual identification that we have with the impulse, and therefore to separate from it.

We can also learn to cultivate our impulse for kindness so that it permeates our entire being for our own benefit and for that of others.

Our humanness provides us with the choice between positive and negative.

Our karma may shift he balance one way or another. But the choices that we make are our responsibility, and they condition our future.”

How do beliefs about death and dying shape living?

As Ninakawa lay dying, zen master Ikkyu visited him: Shall I lead you on?” Ikkyu asked.

Ninakawa replied: “ I came here alone and I go alone. What help could you be to me?”

Ikkyu answered: “ If you think you really come and go, that is your delusion. Let me show you the path on which there is no coming and going.”

With his words, Ikkyu had revealed the path so clearly that Ninakawa died and passed away.

Excerpt from " Graceful Exits: how Great Beings Die" By Sushila Blackman

I find reflecting on death to be one of the most powerful spiritual / existential contemplations. Whether or not we’re ready to look at death head on, the beliefs we hold unconsciously about it have huge influences on how we feel about ourselves and the meaning of our life. Exploring assumptions about death and dying means exploring assumptions about living!